Become More You and Less Them

We all want a voice.  We all want to be seen for who we are.  You hear the old sayings, “a face in the crowd,” “a name on a list” or “social security number of the government”.  No one wants to be this way, but oftentimes in society we have to be lumped together in order to make things work more smoothly.  We are taught that this is the way the world should be.  This is wrong.  It’s time to stand out from the crowd.  Don’t be defined by the group any longer.  Below I have listed some steps on how to be more individualized.

Be honest with yourself

You can’t be yourself if you don’t know who you are.  Take some time and sort out your stance concerning as many topics as you can think of.  Good, bad, or indifferent accept your own views and never lie to yourself about them.  Like Shakespeare said, “To thine own self be true.”

Break from the herd

Now that you know yourself, be unabashed and fearless about being you.  Admit to yourself and others that you are quirky and maybe a little eccentric.  Conformity is a sign of fear, so stand brave.  You have a personality. Like a light from within you, you should let it shine.

Set your own goals

Don’t let others plan your life for you.  It is done out of love, but it can become overbearing to have someone try and run your life.  Decide what you want and determine your own course to get it.  Blaze new trails and learn from your own mistakes.  An old saying is, “There is no one wiser than a person with experience.”  Go out and earn that experience.  You can change the world. 

Question everything

So many times in life we find it easier to do as we are told.  We shut down to the possibilities of finding new ideas or ways to improve upon the old systems.  Question everything; ask why people do the same old things without improvement.  Even if you can’t improve upon them at least you’ll understand the world around you better.  Questioning is a great tool of the innovative mind.  Imagine the possibilities.

Love yourself

You are unique.  There’s no one else in the world like you.  Celebrate that and love your individuality. Self define, not by whom others want you to be, but how you choose to be.  The world is a stage and we are all just players.  You’re in the role you were born to play.   

Chart your own course and be original.  Life is yours to mold and confidence will get you further than fitting in.  Remember who you are and keep a clear view of what you want out of life.  The rest will fall into place.